Category: Relationship

The Looming Retirement of Baby Boomers

bbIf you have done a good job planning for your retirement and have little or no debt you are off to a flying start. Many financial advisors suggest that you will require at least 50%-60% of your working income to retire, enjoying your current standard of lifestyle.

Deciding to retire and keeping yourself busy with a hobby or volunteer work will make sure you have something to fill your time. A few of my single friends in Australia have joined ‘volunteers Abroad’ and found a totally new lease on life helping third world countries building such facilities as schools and irrigation works

If you have reached a point in your life where the kids are now gone to build their own lives and the mortgage is paid off then now is the perfect time to book your first trip or cruise, in your new lifestyle. Here are a few cruise ideas to consider.

The small ship cruise advantages

Fantastic on-board service with some cruises being only 40-50 passengers and crew.

The vessels ability to anchor in very small historic ports with waters too shallow for the giants to even consider an attempt to tie up at.

When you do reach a port of call you are part of a smaller group of usually hundreds rather than thousands.

Small ship cruises can explore the more sensitive areas such as the French Polynesian areas like the beautiful Bora Bora region.

When you are completing your ‘bucket-list’ with things you have always wanted to do, but thought it would never happen such as, go game fishing, or start a tropical garden paradise, it may be time to move on to the next chapter in life.

With all the free time retirement brings, you are going to want companionship to enjoy it. It is better to retire with a social network of friends that you can enjoy it with. If many of your friends and family are all still busy in their corporate world you might find living the life of leisure to be a little lonely.

Although many expenses drop,clearly you will still need to stick to a budget. Many experts recommend sticking to your retirement budget for 6 months before you retire to see how you cope.

Regardless, you should now be looking forward to a healthy new and fulfilling life ahead, it really is a big wide beautiful world, out there!

Letting Go Of The One Who Got Away

32I always talk about the bad relationships experiences that I have had. However there were many good ones. There were ones that I regret or wish that I had taken more seriously. There were ones who really like me and I did not like them. And now most of them, if not all, are married and are living a wonderful lives with their wives or serious girlfriends.

It is so easy to get caught up in the could of would of should of. But through these relationships are valuable lessons. The first lesson is that I was not ready for those type of men. While I can always site what the man has done wrong to me, there were times where I went about the relationships wrong way and was not ready for a real relationship. Or better yet there was time where I done the man wrong and I was the one who ruined things.

This is why it is so important that we always work on ourselves so that when the right one does come along we do not go about ruining the relationship. For myself I think this is a lesson I had to learn. Many of you may think about the one that got away, but there is a reason that they got away. A reason that both you and them must understand. And that is why it is important to look inside ourselves to realize what is was about us that caused them to get away and when we realize this, then we are sure not to repeat the same mistakes once the next “one” comes along.

This brings me to my second lesson, stop thinking about the one that got away. They are gone and if they have moved on then there is a large possibility that they are not coming back. And therefore to sit and reminiscence about what is not and what is never going to be is utterly pointless and hindering you from moving on.

I am sure that we have regrets in relationships. I am sure that there are some men out there who regret letting me get away just like there are people out there who I regret letting get away. But the best remedy for that is just to build a bridge and get over it. If you are not with that wonderful person there is a reason. If it was meant to be, then it would be. And so therefore we cannot live in past relationships, we cannot compare our new relationships to the one that we let get away.

There are a reason for both bad and good relationships that have ended, and the purpose is to learn from them both. So just to be clear, stop social media stalking that man or woman that has now moved on. Stop wishing that you were with them. Stop wondering what went wrong and how you can get it back. Let go and let God. Move on to your future. Realize that you messed up, they messed up, or perhaps a combination of both, whatever the reason is; it does not matter. There is someone else that is better out there for you, better than the one that you left behind. Your only job is to be sure that you do not bring that past baggage that you had into the new relationship into the old relationship. Got it. I hope so. Until next time folks.

You Can Choose To Be Single, And You Can Choose To Be Happy

w3Yes I am single and I am okay being single. But I must admit that it was not always this way. I used to be like other single women filled with desperation and thinking that me not having a husband or being with someone was the end of the world. With the prevalence of social media and everyone posting their happy married and couple moments all over it, I felt like I was missing something and I felt incomplete.

The idea of being 30 and single would lead the conversation with me and my over 30 single women friends. It was as though we were obsessed with it. I can recall one man that I dated in which he was attractive but no where near a good fit for me and he would often stand me up and not keep his word. My divorced friend told me that since I wanted to get married I should just accept it and not make a big deal about it. She also told me that I was too opinionated, and when talking to men even if I did not agree with them and felt like they were talking crazy; I should just nod my head and agree to show my willingness to submit. At this I gave her a crazy look and the response, that I could not agree with being treated like a door mat.

I am all for being submissive to my husband but not being your bobble head girlfriend/wife that agrees with every thing you say, no matter if I agree with it or not. After many years, YES, years of getting myself into an anger frenzy about being single I just let it go. This is because I realized something. There is more to this world for me then having the title as someones wife. I started to dream and think of other things that I wanted to accomplish in this life and that put an end to my whining and pining over not being married.

I think when you finally find a purpose in your life and when you find goals that you are moving toward, you no longer think of the minor things that are lacking in your life. Because being in a relationship and being married is important to me, but it is not the only thing that matters to me. What matters more is that I would like to give my son the world, I want to give myself the world. I want to have the freedom and financial security to travel and make my mark on society by doing the things that I am gifted at. All of a sudden this became more important to me than the ring on my finger.

“I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-35

I am not going to sit here and tell you that as a single person you need to be a nun and spend every waking moment in church so that you can be fully dedicated to God. I think being dedicated to God goes beyond that. It is having a purpose, using your God given talents to do the things that God wants you to do on this Earth. For me this is writing, counseling, speaking, and seeking to encourage others. For you it may be singing, helping people manage their money, acting, or the other ten million things a person could be good at. And you do not have to worry about spending enough time with your significant other, checking in with them every 5 minutes, whether they are going to approve on what you do or what you do not do. Or if you have to be home by a certain time to have dinner on the table or because your spouse wants you to be home by 5:30. You are free to do what you want, go where you want, and be where you want to be.

For single mothers this is a double edged sword because I still have to spend and care for my son obviously, but it would be a whole lot harder for me to pursue my dreams with both and husband and a son, so now I know why God has not given me one yet. And I am okay with that. Even when I really, really, really used to think that being single was equivalent to having the mark of the beast. I was really blowing it way out of proportion.

I have come to learn that as you learn and develop your life purpose you learn more about yourself and what you want out of life. When you know these things about yourself then you can better learn what to look for in the person that you are supposed to be with. And while you wait, you can actively chose to be happy and satisfied being single.

Personality Traits That Attract Most Women

pooWomen are attracted to many things, such as money, power, fame and similar. Many of them want a rich guy, who is capable to make their lives easy to live. Some of them want a strong man, ready to protect them from the dangers around the world.

But these wishes are superficial. A Relationship, built on top of those desires, never lasts for long. To be able to attract woman and more importantly, create a lasting attraction, you need to go deeper. And the only way to do it is to develop personality traits that target her emotions, capable to hit the deeper corners of her heart.

Let me explain the difference between the looks and feelings.

Many men think that if they drive a Ferrari, or own a yacht would help them attract more hot women. Others believe that building a heap of muscles would attract women. Well, that’s just wrong.

While women can get attracted to these superficial things because of lust or hope for material benefits, they aren’t driven to them because of the chemistry. They don’t feel the attraction or affection on a deeper level, which can be achieved with one thing and one thing alone – personality.

Personality is the one thing that enables you to attract her far more successfully than anything else. You don’t need to be rich or handsome to have it, it costs nothing, but it gives you more leverage than any other superficial thing out there.

Sure, now you’re probably asking “When a woman sees a guy driving Ferrari and me, driving a Ford Fiesta, who will she pick?” Well, most women will pick the one who can attract her on a deeper level. It takes some skills and effort to do it, you also don’t have much time to do it, but it can be done.

You see, when two guys are trying to attract a hot woman at the same time, only one can win. And trust me, the one with great personality almost always wins. When you’re capable of attracting a woman with your personality, she won’t care for Ferrari any more.

But what kind of personality do you need? Well, it depends. Not all types of personality traits work the same with all types of women. So, to be able to target the right type of woman with the right type of personality, you’ll need some practise. It takes some time to master the recognition of her body language, telling you what makes her tick in that particular moment, but you’ll get there after a while.

I could write a whole book about personality development, but let me point out just two traits that attract most women out there.

Funny – Women respond to someone who can make them laugh. Being funny can get you lucky in no time, because a woman feels relaxed and positive in your presence. So, try to memorize a couple of good jokes and use them every now and then. Just don’t overdo it, as you want to make her feel comfortable, without making her think about you as a friendly joker.

Cocky – This is a very important trait, neglected by most men. Being cocky gives you that special advantage over other men, because unlike them, you’re not a wuss, doing everything she wants. The cocky attitude makes you more self confident, thus more desirable, as most women like confident men. When using the cocky attitude, don’t go overboard. Remember, being a little cocky is good, but being too much cocky makes you a moron, so use it wisely. Don’t worry, over time you’ll learn how much is enough.

So, as you can see, personality traits that attract most women aren’t hard to develop. All men have them, they just need to develop those main traits to the level, where they could use them on a daily basis, whenever they need to. Remember, being rich or handsome is good, but that alone doesn’t make her feel attracted on a deeper level. Personality is the only thing that hits women’s hearts, so focus on its development as much as you can. Good luck!

Tips in Building Self-Confidence Around Women

rttIs the lack of confidence around women holding you back in pursuing the woman of your dreams? You are not alone, many men have this problem. They get tense, anxious and feel insecure in front of the woman they adore. If this keeps on happening to you, you won’t be able to act the way you want and you will appear unattractive to most women. Confidence is a trait that women admire most and building self-confidence around women is necessary if you want to succeed in dating women.

How to build self-confidence around women?

Know that most people lack self-confidence. Your lack of confidence shouldn’t be an excuse for not approaching the woman you like. You have to know that it is normal for people to feel unsure, uncomfortable or shy in front of another person especially if this person is someone you like so you do not have to feel less of a person for feeling less confident. Who knows, the person that you are afraid to approach might be as shy as you are. In building self-confidence around women you have to muster your courage and conquer your fears.

Dress like a confident man. In everything we do we have to set the mood to be able to feel it and get in action. We get into the mood of sleeping if we are in our sleeping clothes, we wear school uniforms or working clothes to get into the mood of going to school or working. It is the same in building confidence around women, you have to wear a confident persona to get into the mood and one way of accomplishing that is to dress well and appear confident. Wear something stylish and classy but be sure you are comfortable and confident pulling that off. Groom yourself from head to toe. Put attention to your hairstyle and even to your shoes. Trim your facial hair including the hair in your nose and cut your fingernails to appear clean and fresh. Remember that grooming yourself doesn’t mean you have to spend a fortune. There are ways to look great on a budget.

Believe in yourself. Lack of confidence stems from not believing in yourself and in building confidence around women, you have to change your mindset. The way we think affects our behavior. If you do not believe in yourself, it shows in your action. If you will start to believe more in yourself, you will start to act more confident. This is easily said than done but you have to start changing your mindset if you want to build self-confidence around women. If you will start now and will keep on doing it, you will eventually become better and will naturally act confident around women. Believe that you are interesting and likeable and it will show in your actions. Once you start believing in yourself, women will find you more interesting and attractive.

Accept that rejection is a normal part of life. Fear of rejection is the major factor contributing to the lack of confidence of most men. They do not want to be rejected so they just stay away and failed to muster the confidence to approach the women they find attractive. Accept that rejection is a normal part of life and dating or approaching women is not an exception. Almost everybody gets rejected but those who succeeded are those who refused to give up. In building confidence around women, you have to change your outlook about rejection. Think that in every rejection, you get one step closer to meeting “the one” for you.

Practice, practice and practice. Self-consciousness around women can prevent you from acting confident around them but if you will expose yourself to socialize more with women, this self-consciousness will be reduced if not eliminated. You probably already know the common saying that constant practice makes it perfect and you probably have done that on some of the things that you want to learn in school or at work. In building confidence around women, you also have to practice constantly to get the hang of it and to become more confident. Practice being around women more and socialize with them more. Practice having conversations with your women friends so that when the time comes that you have to face the woman you are attracted to, you will not be too overwhelmed.

Once you’ve learned to be confident around women or in front of people in general, it will bring positive changes in your life especially in your social or dating life.

 

How to Pick Up Women at The Office

31Countless guys spend their time trying to figure out how to pick up women at the office despite the fact that office romance is typically against company policy at most working environments. The reality is that we spend the majority of our waking lives at our respective jobs with our co-workers. Inevitably, bonds are formed and sometimes these bonds can lead to casual office romance, dating and even marriage. This however does not change the fact that there are company policies on this topic that you are expected to adhere to. It also does not change the fact that guys will continue to run into women at the office that they want to date. This means if they decide to act on their desires, they will have to learn how to stealthily pick up these women at work without putting their jobs at risk.

Generally speaking, dating a co-worker is not really a good idea as things can get really messy at the office if things go sour and particularly if people find out. I’m certainly not encouraging you to break company policy. At the same time, I’m also not telling you to only pick up women outside of work. That decision is yours to make. However, if you do decide that you absolutely have to go after that irresistible co-worker or woman you see every day that works in a different department; this is how I’d go about it.

First and foremost, test the waters: Unless the woman you’re after is undeniably attracted to you as well, chances are that your advances will not be welcome. So start off by always saying “hi” to her and smile at her every time you cross paths with her. Doing this frequently will make her aware of you. After you’ve done this a few times, you can progress to trying to extend your interaction with her beyond just saying “hi.” Do not try to pick her up or ask her out at this point. Just keep the conversations on work related stuff or other neutral topics. The purpose of this is to gauge how receptive she is simply talking to you and also to get her comfortable around you and used to talking to you.

Secondly, assuming you now know she has a receptive attitude when you talk to her, it’s time to start joking around with her. By this I mean it’s OK to tease her a little and be somewhat playful here and there. In other words, try to bring out both her sense of humor and yours. I say this because you don’t want to come across as just another boring guy at work that talks to her and only all about business and work related stuff.

Thirdly, now that you’ve established a little rapport with her, it’s time to invite her out for lunch or happy hour drinks after work or any other after hours activity. The important part here is to make sure you invite her to join you and other co-workers. Bringing other co-workers into the picture makes things a loss less threatening to her. Plus, she’ll feel a lot more encouraged to accept the invite since everyone else is going. At this point you’re still going to keep things friendly between the two of you since you don’t want to make any advances in front of other co-workers. It’s OK to flirt a little when you have those opportunistic alone moments with her.

Lastly, now that you’ve both been out of the office together – albeit with other co-workers – the idea of going out with you again some place else won’t seem so foreign to her anymore. A few days later while at the office, invite her to hang out with you one-on-one for lunch or preferably drinks after work. Again do this privately when you cross paths in the office hallway or parking lot or someplace similar. If she accepts, this would be a good time to exchange numbers. If she declines, then politely suggest another time with a smile. You could say: “OK no problem, maybe some other time.”

Try asking several days later and if she declines again, chances are that she is not interested and it’s time to leave it alone. No matter what, play it cool and mature. Most importantly stay amicable at your job so as not to make things awkward for either one of you or anyone else at work. Knowing how to pick up women at the office and actually doing it doesn’t have to be difficult.

Did you know that 95% of guys are absolutely clueless when it comes to the art of charming and seducing women? The sad part is that many of these same guys think they know what they’re doing. Are you one of them? Click the link below to learn what the few successful 5% of guys know that you probably don’t.

 

How To Get A Girl’s Number In Less Than 5 Minutes

lesLet’s get straight into this…

So, you basically need to roam around your city until you find a girl that you think you would like to talk to and then as you she her approach directly…

And when you have her attention by saying something similar to “Excuse me… ” then say:

“Sorry, could I please borrow your phone for a second please… ” whilst holding strong eye contact…

Depending on the effectiveness of your approach (see three points below), she may or may not hand over her phone, if she doesn’t just say thanks and walk away.

If she does, take the phone and enter your number and call it straight away (ensure your phone is on load), once your phone starts ringing take it out and say thank you to the girl and pass her phone back with a smirk.

Now…

The effectiveness of the how to get a girl’s number technique hinges almost solely on the three factors below, there is NO point in getting the girl’s number if you don’t create some sort of bond with the girl as she will just delete yours when she leaves and will not respond to your messages.

1. Assume

This exercise hinges almost solely on confidence, if a girl notices an ounce of uncertainty in your eyes she will sense the in-congruence between your thoughts, words and actions and it will weird her out. You have to be 100% certain this will work or it will NOT work.

So how do you get this unshakeable confidence?

Practice

The first time you do this will be a disaster, but no one will die, so try it anyway.

Then slowly you will get better and better and then the confidence will start to show as you build up successful reference experiences.

2. Eye Contact

Throughout the exercise you MUST hold cool and confident eye contact with the girl. This is where she will be subconsciously looking to check your confidence.

But be sure not to make the mistake of staring, if she breaks eye contact, you should too. Don’t look like a psychopath.

3. Qualify & Seed The Date

Once you have her number it is important that you do the following two things if you want to see her again:

Qualify – You must give her a reason for why you want her phone number, otherwise she will just assume you do this with each and every girl, which will drastically reduce the chance she will go on a date with you.

Seed The Date – She must know that you are going to ask her out on a date, otherwise, she will get your message asking her to do something and will think “why couldn’t her ask that to my face?”. Again be careful not to come across to desperate here and maybe just drop in “oh I’ll take you to X” or “we should do X”

Right, get out there and test your new skill, but remember, now you know how to get a girl’s number in under 5 minutes, use this skill ethically.

How To Get A Girl Without Being Desperate

361. Realise That Your Happiness Is Not Within 1 Specific Girl

The majority of the information handed down to you regarding girls has come from marketers. Marketers who would like you to believe that when you have purchased the correct plastic configurations that the perfect girl will find you. The marketers that present the heavily moderated image on the billboard to keep you going on your little hamster wheel.

This is actually a myth, girls are just like you, human, they get depressed, smell, excrete and are also searching for happiness.

They also couldn’t really care for your plastic configurations or how many 1’s and 0’s you have accumulated in your bank account.

But why would they lie to you?

One answer… Money.

OK, so now we have cleared that up, it should now be obvious that the movie star or calendar girl that you are trying to work out how to get, is not what you actually want.

2. Realise That Your Happiness Is Not Solely Dependant On Your Success With Girls

OK Dave, so if I shouldn’t chase after one specific girl, what should I do to get a girlfriend?

Not focus on getting a girlfriend…

Again you must realise that though your genes may tell you otherwise, there is more to life than success with the opposite sex.

Yes, you can go out and life an awesome life with a girl for a certain time and it is perfectly possible that you will be happy…

And it just so happens that when you do this… the real fun will start.

Girls we start to understand what’s going on, they will realise you have a passion for life and paradoxically this is when they will come running and you won’t even consider asking “how to get a girl” again…

3. Welcome To Life

Here we go…

Your life can now continue without such an intense focus on the opposite sex.

And it is now that we come to point of the article, how you get the girl without coming across as desperate.

When you have built an AWESOME life, you know that the addition of any specific or even ANY girl can’t have that much of an impact on your happiness and thus it is almost impossible to come across as desperate.

This is where we need you to be…

Now you understand the reason why you should not ask the question “how to get a girl” you are truly ready to start your quest to find that awesome girlfriend…

5 Things Men Find Sexy

dewwOne of men’s greatest fears is that they will end up to a woman who is an emotional liability. They fear being trapped in a miserable relationship. The last thing they want is to be in an unfulfilling relationship with a woman who doesn’t make him happy. Below are some qualities women who satisfy men often have.

The first quality that men often admire in a woman is direction. Men don’t want to be a woman’s life, nor do they want to be her sole provider. Men want a woman who has her own goals and ambitions, a woman who knows what she wants and is prepared to go and get it.

The second quality men like in a woman is independence. This quality ties into the first one but it is more holistic. An independent woman has her own life. She has her own career, her own friends and interests and isn’t the type to drop all of her plans to cater to a guy or go out of her way to show him how much she likes him.

Thirdly, men respect a woman who respects herself. This is often the reason why men get away with a whole lot of stuff. See a man is only going to respect you as much as you respect yourself. Set your standards and don’t let anyone fall below them.

The fourth feature men love is the natural look. Men love a woman in her gym gear, without makeup on. I know it sounds contradictory to what women know, but a woman without makeup on is 100 times more appealing to a man than a girl who looks like a clown face.

Lastly, guys love a woman with a great smile. For a start it makes her look approachable and she looks happy. This relates to the first quality on the list. Men look for a woman who is going to compliment their life. They want a woman to want to share her happiness with them. They don’t want to prop up a woman and be the only thing she has going for her in her life.

The theme with all of the above traits is that they endorse a woman’s stability. While it is important to drop your guard and express your thoughts and feelings in order to develop the superglue of a relationship – an emotional connection, you must firstly show a guy that you are secure within yourself.

5 Holiday Destinations for Single Men

judFor most unattached men, the word “single” brings a dual, or should that be duel, feeling. Being single is synonymous with freedom, but on the flip-side, very few men look forward to a lifetime spent alone. Thankfully, there are many destinations for a single vacation where a guy can tackle this conundrum on his own terms, in due time, but always after a hot experience in paradise. Here are five places that are custom-made for a singles holiday.

Medellin, Colombia:

Made for: Adventure-seekers, and romantics
The draw: Endless jungles, and seduction as a culture

The terrain surrounding this ancient city is one of the most diverse in Colombia and a great vacation for singles. It has tall mountain peaks, jungle highlands and lowlands, deep gorges and canyons, and amazingly hypnotic farming areas. Every type of terrain offers the opportunity for extreme guided excursions. Places like the Abbura Valley are unmatched in the world for seasonal color. Temesis offers endurance hikes and waterfall rappelling only minutes from the city. Of course, there are thousands of private places like Los Katios National Park, where the jungle meets a crystal clear pool, perhaps with a cave or hot spring. This is the ideal spot for a single guy to entertain a lovely local girl, or fellow traveler in a dream-like setting.

Rio De Janeiro, Brazil

Made for: Fit men who can dance and who crave noise
The draw: 24 hour socializing and parties

Party Mecca for single men is Carnival, and Rio is its home base. Almost all year long, people in this city throw back the curtains for tourists. This is especially true for single guys who are extremely comfortable with leaving their self-loathing behind the moment the step off the plane. Festa (Portuguese for feast/celebration), is ingrained in Brazilian culture. In the ancient world, all roads led to Rome. In Rio, all roads lead to the beach, or a world class nightclub. There are the classics like Ipanema and the Copacabana, but other venues are becoming popular, especially if you have a favorite beach activity. Praia Vermelha is a surf hub, and Praia da Barra da Tijuca is famous for motor sports and parasailing. After working on the tan,go for dancing, drinks, and booty-watching at clubs like Leviano with its massive mosh pit, and Casa Rosa for laser-lit, edgy interaction. Rio might well be the perfect place for singles to holiday.

Bangkok, Thailand

Made for: Urban-oriented, tryst addicts
The draw: Food, adult entertainment, and more food

Men from all over the world find Bangkok to be a fascinating study in opposites. There’s no argument that adult entertainment in all forms is a major draw, but local laws and customs must be respected at all times. It’s absolutely possible to find any type of entertainment that you want, but it must be enjoyed on the culture’s terms. Bangkok is like a single traveller’s fantasy theme park, but definitely… ahem, lives up to its name. The people of Bangkok are exotic creatures in familiar westernized, U.S. and Euro-style packages. They are very accommodating to the expectations of single male tourists, and have the inviting currency exchange rate to boot. Restaurants like Xing Fu satisfy a guy’s stomach. Fitness and outdoor gyms help a guy retain his muscle tone while away from home. Elephant riding in the Khoa Yi National Park provides opportunities for selfies to make friends jealous. Adult clubs, lounges and hotel concierge like will certainly where out a single guy’s eyes (if not his entire body). As a single guy wrestles with the notion of settling-down in life, he can get the “wildness” out in this huge bachelor party of a destination.

Ibiza, Spain

Made for: History-lovers, mermen
The draw: Genuine locals, The Mediterranean

Ibiza is an island getaway steeped in old world culture including religion, sport, and cuisine. The deepest blue imaginable comes from an interface with the Mediterranean Sea, and the deepest brown is found in the eyes, hair and skin of some of Europe’s most alluring women making it the dream holiday for singles. A network of inviting villages each have town centers emerging from a catholic chapel like the Capilla de la Virgen de Lourdes, or a school or monastery. As far as social activities, anything having to do with playing on the sand or in the water is available. This area is very family friendly, so singles fun remains extremely intimate and low key. Single men should try offering a lonely local girl a glass of wine followed by a conversation on art, and a paddle board session afterward.

Cancun, Mexico

Made for: Penny-pinchers, beach bums
The draw: Oceanside recreation, tequila, tans

This resort city is obviously popular with the college Spring Break crowd for reasons that also appeal to any single man. Every dinner plate, public transport, cabana, fishing charter, beach chair rental, and bottle of Jose Cuervo is affordable. This means single guys in every stage of life can find a way to have fun. Spend a few days hiking in the Yucatan inland camping near the Chichen Itza Pyramid, then join a beach rave with some new Mexican friends for the rest of the trip.