Month: January 2016

5 Things Men Find Sexy

dewwOne of men’s greatest fears is that they will end up to a woman who is an emotional liability. They fear being trapped in a miserable relationship. The last thing they want is to be in an unfulfilling relationship with a woman who doesn’t make him happy. Below are some qualities women who satisfy men often have.

The first quality that men often admire in a woman is direction. Men don’t want to be a woman’s life, nor do they want to be her sole provider. Men want a woman who has her own goals and ambitions, a woman who knows what she wants and is prepared to go and get it.

The second quality men like in a woman is independence. This quality ties into the first one but it is more holistic. An independent woman has her own life. She has her own career, her own friends and interests and isn’t the type to drop all of her plans to cater to a guy or go out of her way to show him how much she likes him.

Thirdly, men respect a woman who respects herself. This is often the reason why men get away with a whole lot of stuff. See a man is only going to respect you as much as you respect yourself. Set your standards and don’t let anyone fall below them.

The fourth feature men love is the natural look. Men love a woman in her gym gear, without makeup on. I know it sounds contradictory to what women know, but a woman without makeup on is 100 times more appealing to a man than a girl who looks like a clown face.

Lastly, guys love a woman with a great smile. For a start it makes her look approachable and she looks happy. This relates to the first quality on the list. Men look for a woman who is going to compliment their life. They want a woman to want to share her happiness with them. They don’t want to prop up a woman and be the only thing she has going for her in her life.

The theme with all of the above traits is that they endorse a woman’s stability. While it is important to drop your guard and express your thoughts and feelings in order to develop the superglue of a relationship – an emotional connection, you must firstly show a guy that you are secure within yourself.

5 Holiday Destinations for Single Men

judFor most unattached men, the word “single” brings a dual, or should that be duel, feeling. Being single is synonymous with freedom, but on the flip-side, very few men look forward to a lifetime spent alone. Thankfully, there are many destinations for a single vacation where a guy can tackle this conundrum on his own terms, in due time, but always after a hot experience in paradise. Here are five places that are custom-made for a singles holiday.

Medellin, Colombia:

Made for: Adventure-seekers, and romantics
The draw: Endless jungles, and seduction as a culture

The terrain surrounding this ancient city is one of the most diverse in Colombia and a great vacation for singles. It has tall mountain peaks, jungle highlands and lowlands, deep gorges and canyons, and amazingly hypnotic farming areas. Every type of terrain offers the opportunity for extreme guided excursions. Places like the Abbura Valley are unmatched in the world for seasonal color. Temesis offers endurance hikes and waterfall rappelling only minutes from the city. Of course, there are thousands of private places like Los Katios National Park, where the jungle meets a crystal clear pool, perhaps with a cave or hot spring. This is the ideal spot for a single guy to entertain a lovely local girl, or fellow traveler in a dream-like setting.

Rio De Janeiro, Brazil

Made for: Fit men who can dance and who crave noise
The draw: 24 hour socializing and parties

Party Mecca for single men is Carnival, and Rio is its home base. Almost all year long, people in this city throw back the curtains for tourists. This is especially true for single guys who are extremely comfortable with leaving their self-loathing behind the moment the step off the plane. Festa (Portuguese for feast/celebration), is ingrained in Brazilian culture. In the ancient world, all roads led to Rome. In Rio, all roads lead to the beach, or a world class nightclub. There are the classics like Ipanema and the Copacabana, but other venues are becoming popular, especially if you have a favorite beach activity. Praia Vermelha is a surf hub, and Praia da Barra da Tijuca is famous for motor sports and parasailing. After working on the tan,go for dancing, drinks, and booty-watching at clubs like Leviano with its massive mosh pit, and Casa Rosa for laser-lit, edgy interaction. Rio might well be the perfect place for singles to holiday.

Bangkok, Thailand

Made for: Urban-oriented, tryst addicts
The draw: Food, adult entertainment, and more food

Men from all over the world find Bangkok to be a fascinating study in opposites. There’s no argument that adult entertainment in all forms is a major draw, but local laws and customs must be respected at all times. It’s absolutely possible to find any type of entertainment that you want, but it must be enjoyed on the culture’s terms. Bangkok is like a single traveller’s fantasy theme park, but definitely… ahem, lives up to its name. The people of Bangkok are exotic creatures in familiar westernized, U.S. and Euro-style packages. They are very accommodating to the expectations of single male tourists, and have the inviting currency exchange rate to boot. Restaurants like Xing Fu satisfy a guy’s stomach. Fitness and outdoor gyms help a guy retain his muscle tone while away from home. Elephant riding in the Khoa Yi National Park provides opportunities for selfies to make friends jealous. Adult clubs, lounges and hotel concierge like will certainly where out a single guy’s eyes (if not his entire body). As a single guy wrestles with the notion of settling-down in life, he can get the “wildness” out in this huge bachelor party of a destination.

Ibiza, Spain

Made for: History-lovers, mermen
The draw: Genuine locals, The Mediterranean

Ibiza is an island getaway steeped in old world culture including religion, sport, and cuisine. The deepest blue imaginable comes from an interface with the Mediterranean Sea, and the deepest brown is found in the eyes, hair and skin of some of Europe’s most alluring women making it the dream holiday for singles. A network of inviting villages each have town centers emerging from a catholic chapel like the Capilla de la Virgen de Lourdes, or a school or monastery. As far as social activities, anything having to do with playing on the sand or in the water is available. This area is very family friendly, so singles fun remains extremely intimate and low key. Single men should try offering a lonely local girl a glass of wine followed by a conversation on art, and a paddle board session afterward.

Cancun, Mexico

Made for: Penny-pinchers, beach bums
The draw: Oceanside recreation, tequila, tans

This resort city is obviously popular with the college Spring Break crowd for reasons that also appeal to any single man. Every dinner plate, public transport, cabana, fishing charter, beach chair rental, and bottle of Jose Cuervo is affordable. This means single guys in every stage of life can find a way to have fun. Spend a few days hiking in the Yucatan inland camping near the Chichen Itza Pyramid, then join a beach rave with some new Mexican friends for the rest of the trip.

How To Get Over Being Shy And Get What You Want From Men

bvMost women have an innate insecurity mechanism. We worry about one thing or another like cellulite, wrinkles, stretch marks or our weight for example.

For many women the thought of flirting with men to initiate contact is worse than giving a speech to an audience of 1000 people. Why? Because we doubt ourselves. We convince ourselves from the outset that a guy won’t be attracted to us. This can be the case even if we receive lots of evidence contrary to our self-opinion, like men looking at us, paying us compliments and pursuing us. Our perception of ourselves will always be the opinion that we listen to.

They say you should always face your fears. So I am going to lay down 3 challenges for you to take up. Add them to your bucket list, phone a friend for moral support or do them with a friend but you must complete all of the challenges within a month of reading this article. Think of me as your personal coach. We all need a coach to motivate us, to push us outside of our comfort zone so we realize our potential. Like my yoga instructor says, quoted from the creator of Bikram Yoga – Bikram himself, “You have much more under the hood than you realize.” You can do these tasks easily.

Challenge Number 1

Write your name and number on a piece of paper and walk up to 3 different men over separate days that you see while out and about and like the look of, hand them this note and walk away. You don’t need to say anything to them. This is called flirting in the 21st Century. Men are often too scared to approach us and immune to our subtle flirts. This method removes all confusion by telling them that you are feeling it loud and clear. Who cares if they are taken or doesn’t call. Obviously, don’t approach a man if he is with a woman. You have nothing invested in this, you didn’t even strike up a conversation with them – so don’t think of a no call as rejection because it really isn’t!

Challenge Number 2

Walk up to man that you are attracted to, he could be in a bar or club or on the street and kiss him on the lips. I don’t mean a peck either. I’m talking tongue action. I suggest you ask him first, but this will increase your confidence immensely and build you up for challenge number 3.

Challenge Number 3

Your last challenge is to go out clubbing or bar hopping and ask 100 men on the same night if they will give you their number. I recommend you do this challenge with someone else. You will get numbers and you don’t need to do anything with them, although you can if you like. The last rule is you can’t hone in on any of these men until you have asked 100 men for their number. After that you are free to zone in on the one or ones that you liked. This rule will not only help you to finish the challenge but it will increase men’s perception of value in you because you are making them wait for your attention.

All of these challenges are designed to improve your confidence so that you can get a relationship you want with a man that you want. I don’t recommend you employ challenge number 3 as an ongoing dating strategy because men should be the ones asking for your number. You can give them yours but they should do the calling and pursuing because men want to hunt women and find that role more natural than taking on that role than the persona of the one being pursued.

Like I said, you can do these challenges with a friend – even a male friend to make it more interesting. You can turn it into a competition to make it more fun, but you must complete the challenges from beginning to end. I have two sisters, so if you have sisters, especially a sister who is more confident and outgoing than you – do the challenges with them.


Pleasures of Solitude Without Feeling Lonely

fhBeing alone is not the same as being lonely. You can actually enjoy solitude without feeling lonely. This article pours over some tips on how this is possible. To learn them, read on.

    • Take up a good novel by your favorite writer and start reading. Time will pass elegantly. In order to find a good book from the comfort of your home, you can order on Amazon or download the book of your choice from a free site. There are so many sites available now a days that offer free books to download and let you enjoy reading them.


    • Go for a pleasant stroll around your block. Enjoy the sun rays enveloping you if it is a sunny day or enjoy the wind fluttering through your hair if it is a cold, windy day. Either way you will like being by yourself.


    • Get a nice cookbook and start cooking interesting and delicious recipes of your choice. You will have a good time doing it all by yourself. Then you can call up a friend to come over and share the food items. S/he may even compliment on your cooking skills making you feel even better.


    • Plant a garden around your home. You can start with vegetables which will benefit you for your meals or you can grow beautiful flowers to add beauty to your home. Either way you will pass time happily. You will have to add fertilizer in right amounts, sprinkle water and weed out regularly to have a good-looking and healthy garden.


    • Get some painting colors, a paint brush and a drawing board with some paper and start painting right away. You can paint something looking at a post card or some picture at first. But gradually you will develop your own ideas and your painting skills will improve and you will enjoy doing it more and more.


    • You may engage yourself writing a novel or fiction story. You can mentally make up some characters and design a plot before you actually place it on paper, or it can be something based on your real life experiences that you want to share with the world.


  • You can play your favorite songs and start singing along with them. You can hone on your singing skills by taking up singing lessons in your local area. And time will fly away gracefully.

These are a few of my tips on how you can enjoy being by yourself without feeling lonely. I do hope you got some ideas to start with. So take action immediately and dive in!